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The huge blind spot you are missing does not exist in a silo

We love to categorize our lives: work, personal, party, family, relationships, health, entertainment, etc. But thinking about these aspects as separate and compartmentalized is grossly outdated. In order to have an effective balance of *all the things*, not just work/life, we need to use a holistic approach. We need to understand that there are commonContinue reading “The huge blind spot you are missing does not exist in a silo”

Why do I preach “put yourself first”?

Being whole, happy, and aligned within yourself is the first step to achieving anything you want, especially if you want to do good for others. One of the main principles I teach is to put yourself first. There are so many benefits to this, but many people see it as selfish or don’t see theContinue reading “Why do I preach “put yourself first”?”

The power of positive thinking – how your thoughts shape your reality

I feel like we always hear about the power of positive thinking when it comes to cancer patients living past their diagnosis expectations. And I love these stories, it’s truly incredible! But sometimes I wonder, why we aren’t talking about the smaller, everyday examples of positive thinking? Here, I’m provoking thought in a super lightheartedContinue reading “The power of positive thinking – how your thoughts shape your reality”

If you’re not choosing to take action, you are choosing to suffer!

Do you ever encounter this – someone who is constantly complaining or living with an incredibly agonizing situation, pain, or roadblock that they love to complain about, but never seem to take action on any of the advice they get? Is this YOU?! Boo boo, I say this with all the love in the world:Continue reading “If you’re not choosing to take action, you are choosing to suffer!”

My Halloweekend in Vegas had me feeling like…

This year, I decided to take a solo trip to Las Vegas for Halloween. It was the best vacation I’ve gifted myself in years! Waking up each morning with a view on the 18th floor, using the resort gym that was equipped with a smith machine (guided squat rack), and eating at fancy restaurants withContinue reading “My Halloweekend in Vegas had me feeling like…”

How to protect your energy when someone denies your reality

It is okay to protect your energy, thoughts, and beliefs when those around you are less than supportive. Remember, only YOU know what is best for yourself. When someone is being unsupportive of your choices, try these mantras:– that is not my belief– that is not my truth– that does not serve me

I was on an emotional rollercoaster; at war with myself.

The self-healing journey, in my experience, is a rollercoaster of emotions. All of this is normal to experience. Re-programming your mind is big work! The low moments are our biggest opportunities for growth, and our high moments are a time to reflect and celebrate our progress. On your journey, begin to track the time betweenContinue reading “I was on an emotional rollercoaster; at war with myself.”

How I channeled my jealousy productively – and won the game.

Relationships can be so tricky to navigate. Many problems and tensions within a relationship actually begin in our own minds and turn into miscommunication, pain, jealousy, fighting, and other un-enjoyable experiences. The best thing we can do is recognize our emotions and take a step back to analyze why we are feeling a certain way.Continue reading “How I channeled my jealousy productively – and won the game.”

I spent an hour ruminating on a simple task at work. What a waste!

The amount of time we spend at work can be incredibly fulfilling, if it’s the right environment. However, when your work doesn’t align with your values, goals, and desires, work can become a prison. In those moments, a change in perspective can completely reframe the day to help you just get through. The most importantContinue reading “I spent an hour ruminating on a simple task at work. What a waste!”

If you’ve fantasized about crashing your car, you are not alone!

I’ve begun re-reading my old journals. As I peruse them, it’s absolutely incredible to reflect on how far I’ve come. In this video, I discuss that in 2019, I recorded daily fantasies about pulling into oncoming traffic and slamming into guard rails. That in itself is a low, but compare that to 2007, when IContinue reading “If you’ve fantasized about crashing your car, you are not alone!”