When you’re in pain or struggling with emotional burdens, your first instinct is to close off from the world.
You try not to let others see that you are struggling. You don’t want to be a burden to them, and you don’t want to appear weak, like a victim.
So you shrink back, shutter up your heart, shutter up your mind. You thoughtfully choose the words you speak so as to not give any indication that you are less than perfect.
Besides, you don’t need help. You’re an educated adult and you can handle your own problems, right?
Well…not exactly.
If you’re feeling and identifying with the thoughts above, you are not alone. In fact, most of my clients have these thoughts, as do I every once in a while.
There can be a fog – a cloud – that hangs around some days. On these days, you have to force yourself to get out of bed; to go to the gym; to go to work.
Sometimes you have to force yourself to smile and hold conversations. It. Is. Draining.
More than anything, you want to just feel better. To feel like you’re not treading water. To feel like you’re sitting beside the pool, no longer at the risk of drowning.
You want the pain and the shame to be gone. The guilt to be released. The heaviness to lift. You want life to feel easier. You want more time, more energy, and to feel something…
enjoyable.
You feel safest with your people, but many times you feel like you can’t totally be yourself with your people. Your family and friends are supposed to be your place of home, acceptance, and love, but these can also be the people that “keep you in line,” don’t understand the growth you are seeking, and judge you for the parts of you that they don’t understand.
If you are tired of feeling like this…
The truth is: you don’t have a totally safe space to work through all the stuff going on in your head, without judgement. You’re not that person who wants to dwell on the sadness, so you don’t share it with anyone.
Therapy might not be your thing. Maybe you don’t want to work through your past. You just want to move forward. You want to figure out how to get out of this space where things feel hard and forced. You know it’s possible – you see others living it every day – but how to get there is the question.
My friend, you are on the brink of a massive transformation.
As someone who spent a decade feeling like I was drowning, completely living under a cloud of self-hatred, I can personally attest to the feeling of being totally lost in your own life. And I know what it sounds like when you’re ready to leave the cloud behind.
This issue is pervasive in our post-2020 world, so I devoted my career to helping people like you overcome this mess.
Because, I care.
People who work with me are able to work through and defeat negative thought processes, develop new habits, and reshape their lives within three months. I designed the process like a transformative cab ride – I get you from point A to point B in a certain period of time, and then let you fly, a completely transformed version of you.
The results for my clients have been truly life-changing, and I am so honored to have played a role in their journeys: taking a leap of faith in their career, reconnecting with their spouses, developing a self-care and morning routine, un-learning anxiety, fear, stress, and people-pleasing.
The list goes on!
My dear, take this as your sign. It’s time to let the clouds clear and step into the new version of you.
What are you waiting for?
I’m ready when you are.
Kerstie Blue 